𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐎𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞: 𝐀 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐨𝐧 𝐆𝐞𝐧𝐮𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬

Ever wondered why some people stay in your life while others leave? Do you blame yourself, blame them, or simply accept that it’s no one’s fault?

Personally, knowing who I am, I take a different approach I reflect on how I met them in the first place. People cross our paths in many ways through school, work, or shared experiences. But beyond that, I try to understand their perception of me. Why did they connect with me? Was it because of mutual interests, something they needed, or was it simply a natural bond?

The truth is, 𝐼 𝑐𝑎𝑛’𝑡 𝑎𝑙𝑤𝑎𝑦𝑠 𝑘𝑛𝑜𝑤 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑢𝑟𝑒. I can’t fully control how people see me or why they choose to stay or leave. But what I can control is how 𝐼 𝑠ℎ𝑜𝑤 𝑢𝑝 𝑖𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑠𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑙𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠ℎ𝑖𝑝𝑠. I stay true to myself. If I choose to be close to someone, it’s genuine. Whether it’s because 𝐼 𝑎𝑑𝑚𝑖𝑟𝑒 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚, 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙 𝑎 𝑛𝑎𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑎𝑙 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑛𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛, 𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑖𝑚𝑝𝑙𝑦 𝑑𝑜𝑛’𝑡 𝑢𝑛𝑑𝑒𝑟𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑜𝑛 𝑦𝑒𝑡, 𝐈 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐜.

I also believe in trying to fix things when relationships face challenges. But if, despite my efforts, someone chooses to walk away or if I find myself needing to walk away I accept it. 𝑁𝑜𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑟𝑒𝑔𝑟𝑒𝑡, 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡, but with the understanding that maybe we weren’t meant to stay in each other’s lives.

At the end of the day, I find peace in knowing that I never have to force connections. 𝐼𝑓 𝐼 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑒 𝑖𝑛 𝑎𝑙𝑖𝑔𝑛𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝐼 𝑎𝑚, 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑟𝑒𝑚𝑎𝑖𝑛 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑜𝑛𝑒𝑠 𝑤ℎ𝑜 𝑡𝑟𝑢𝑙𝑦 𝑑𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑣𝑒 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑒 ℎ𝑒𝑟𝑒—𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝐼 𝑑𝑒𝑠𝑒𝑟𝑣𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚 𝑡𝑜𝑜.